Tread IT!

Look at these beautiful balloons? Do you think they fly because of their pretty colours? Think again...  it's because of their filler which is a kind of gas. What do you fill your self with? Bad thoughts or negative words? You need a pure filler to rise quickly from the ashes of the past and remain high up. You can't mix good and not so good associations right now. You may not be able to stand the test of height with that decision; you are dealing with pain and already imbedded negative thoughts and energy. To rise above all you have been through , you must DELIBERATELY make positive relationships, leave your comfort zone and be positively energized. Do not let another dampen your spirit by reminding you of your past pain and struggles. You already know what you went through , don't hide in that pain or shame. You dust yourself up and say, "still I rise!".  Focus on how you can get out of your limitations and work on it. Let go of the fifteen old frien...

Author Henri Nouwen once wrote,"When those you love deeply reject you,leave you, or die, your heart will be broken. But that should not hold you back from loving deeply. The pain that comes from deep love makes your love even more fruitful". We may not agree with that,but it's the truth. Everyone has had their heart broken at one time or the other, but not everyone recovers from it. I am one of those people who have recovered from it; I decided to give another person, and another day a chance to prove the cliche  "all men are the same", and "everyone is wicked and selfish" wrong. I would like to compare a painful heart break to your favourite mug accidentally breaking into a thousand pieces. If you are like me,it's not just the 'demise' of your mug that is painful,but the aftermath; a thousand fragments scattered all over the floor. It might take about four painstakingly and thorough sweeps  to get rid of all the sharp pieces. No matter h...

Several times,I have had to listen to friends, associates ,and protégés discuss  how their spouses or partners abuse them in a relationship. When we hear the word abuse most times, words and actions like 'to belittle, exploit, put down, physical hurt, swearing,and even sexual assault' come to mind. Yes, they are all aspects of abuse. One word that does not readily come to mind as a synonym of abuse is disrespect. That's right, disrespect. I bet you are somewhat  surprised as to my use of the word abuse as a synonym of disrespect. Disrespect is lack of respect or courtesy to someone or something; according to Thesaurus dictionary,disrespect means disregard or rudeness towards someone. Disrespect is a no no in every relationship whether it's at home,in an office, or a public place. Disrespect is  such a big issue in the western world  that employees are fired for being unmannerly towards a customer or fellow colleague. Organisatiosns have sued, and have also be...