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One particular experience in my early years has stood out more than all others. In primary three,my mother,a retired teacher had just arrived from the northern part of the country with goods to sell in Lagos, Nigeria where we were settled. It is amazing how some of those clothes and fashion accessories she sold back then are still in trend. I was one young child who liked to show off every now and then, so I picked up one of the aviation sunglasses and hoop ear-rings , and took them to school. On that particular day, I had the opportunity to show off my classy look to friends,because there was a free period on our time-table. A few minutes later,my friend Kemi Dada walked up to the teacher. Back then, class teachers were sitted in classrooms with their students. Our teacher,Miss Stella,was the youngest and prettiest teacher in school. Kemi informed Miss Stella I brought her some gifts. Puzzled,Miss Stella then beckoned on me to confirm what Kemi had said,and I could not

Author Henri Nouwen once wrote,"When those you love deeply reject you,leave you, or die, your heart will be broken. But that should not hold you back from loving deeply. The pain that comes from deep love makes your love even more fruitful". We may not agree with that,but it's the truth. Everyone has had their heart broken at one time or the other, but not everyone recovers from it. I am one of those people who have recovered from it; I decided to give another person, and another day a chance to prove the cliche  "all men are the same", and "everyone is wicked and selfish" wrong. I would like to compare a painful heart break to your favourite mug accidentally breaking into a thousand pieces. If you are like me,it's not just the 'demise' of your mug that is painful,but the aftermath; a thousand fragments scattered all over the floor. It might take about four painstakingly and thorough sweeps  to get rid of all the sharp pieces. No matter h

Several times,I have had to listen to friends, associates ,and protégés discuss  how their spouses or partners abuse them in a relationship. When we hear the word abuse most times, words and actions like 'to belittle, exploit, put down, physical hurt, swearing,and even sexual assault' come to mind. Yes, they are all aspects of abuse. One word that does not readily come to mind as a synonym of abuse is disrespect. That's right, disrespect. I bet you are somewhat  surprised as to my use of the word abuse as a synonym of disrespect. Disrespect is lack of respect or courtesy to someone or something; according to Thesaurus dictionary,disrespect means disregard or rudeness towards someone. Disrespect is a no no in every relationship whether it's at home,in an office, or a public place. Disrespect is  such a big issue in the western world  that employees are fired for being unmannerly towards a customer or fellow colleague. Organisatiosns have sued, and have also being driv

It was my birthday yesterday,and I've never felt this good. I had a memorable and fantastic day,thanks to family and friends. Most times, I feel depressed a week before and after my birthday because I'm a year older,and I'm not even close to fulfilling my dreams. This year, I have felt positive and determined a month before because I have the feeling I have been given another chance to make a difference. I will succeed; I will prove my critics wrong. Wish me luck x x x.

I totally had a faux-pas this weekend. Alright,it was not a wardrobe malfunction like a nipple slip or whale tail flash,but it was an embarrassing time for me. I have had my fair share of socially awkward and nasty moments in the past, but it had been a while. I had to go for an event where there was a sudden and unplanned change in venue. The new venue located in Central  London,made it tough to get a parking space. Having parked very far from the venue, I had to walk with friends down to the event.  The downside to the story was my shoe was a little loose,and I forgot to stuff the pair with tissue. Reputed to be a high heeled hottie, I flopped. I could not walk, friends had to leave me behind; I simply crawled to the venue. Returning from a rather exhilarating and tiring day with another set of friends,I simply removed my shoes,and walked bare foot back to the car.  Things have never gotten that bad for me on my worst shoe days. I do hope that never happens again,but that is almo

Can we learn to be responsible for our actions,and not blame a mystical being or spirituality? Can we believe in the law of cause and effect, and not be religious sycophants ? Can we believe that God did not create us to suffer in penury and mediocrity now, to enjoy later in heaven? Can we just shut up and listen to the strategies other third world countries have used to get their greedy leaders out of the power capsules,they call the presidential villas? Can we stop being lazy Christians,and use the brains God has given us to think,learn,and act?  I am really tired of hearing, "God will judge IBB, Obasanjo, Al-Mustapha to name a few',or "it is well!". Yes,God will judge them in heaven,but on earth,who has he given powers like gods to bring justice? You and I.  It is good to be optimistic in all situations but it is also foolishness to leave things the way they are or keep doing things the same way and expect a different result. The author of "IT IS WELL"

Don't we just love the warmth and excitement in the air? The School breaks, bank holidays, the longest days of the year; its just perfect. The beaches and parks are teeming with stimulated sun-bathers and sand castle builders.  We all love summer, the fashion lines love summer, and the food and drinks industry love summer. Summer is a multi-billion dollar industry in the temperate countries. Its a happy go lucky season when you can almost inhale adrenalin in the air . Skimpy dresses, string bikinis, tanning cream, nail polishes, hair-removal creams, sunglasses, sun hats, BBQ chicken,to name a few! Its a time when we all have a short attention span because of all the distractions around;the wild parties,half dressed hunks or girls. Its a time you are so happy that you let people who make you cross 'go home'  forgiven. Its when the middle-aged and old feel young, and can almost feel their youthfulness come alive again. Summer, really is like a season of our lives when we  

About three months ago,I bought a lovely Brazilian leather peep toe. It did swallow up a significant amount of my savings,but it was worth it. About a month and half later,I realised the heels of that pair of shoes needed urgent cap replacement. I winced because it suddenly dawned on me this exotic shoe had become my everyday work shoe, and its value was diminishing significantly. I rushed  down to a cobbler who did such a horrid job,that the heel cap came off the same day I wore the shoes. I also attempted a DIY,but it just made the heels worse. I was concerned,and mentioned it to a few colleagues at work,who adviced me to forget about ever wearing the shoes again,because from their experiences of bad heels, determination never got it mended. I listened quietly,but I had made up my mind I was not going to let go of  a pair of shoes of that quality AND price .  Last weekend,I went on another scout for a shoe cobbler who would grant me my impossible wish. After being turned down

Just yesterday evening, I watched an episode from the fourth season of the medical drama, House. Dr Gregory House sought after a patient with a difficult prognosis in order to cut down one or two doctors from the list of candidates in a job candidate selection process in the hospital.  The dying  patient,a rock band member  and drug junkie seemed like a happy man. However,T female doctors however ,two doctors developed a strong inclination towards him; one was of hatred,while the other was of love. The two doctors clashed regularly on the worth or value of the patient who cared less whether he would die or live.  In addressing the issue, Dr House said '....there  is no Saint without a past or a sinner without a future....' and it did struck me,that as humans,from being infants to being elderly,we will inevitably hit a bump or two on our journey to accomplishing whatever we want out of life. Whether it is being a cheerleader, an athlete, a doctor, or simply  just getting out o

Tread: Amanda Knox's Memoir : The decision of a retrial of Amanda Knox baffles me. If Rudy Guede was already charged with the murder of Meredith Kercher,what really doe...

The decision of a retrial of Amanda Knox baffles me. If Rudy Guede was already charged with the murder of Meredith Kercher,what really does the Italian authority want? The families of Amanda Knox have gone bankrupt over the years as a result of the trips to Europe, and legal fees. The Italian Law Enforcement Agency all of a sudden realise the Verdict by Judge Hellman of the 2011 was invalid. Does this have to do with the Kercher family getting justice,or with chasing a killer with only contaminated evidences to fall back on.  Every DNA evidence from the night of the murder points to the convicted Rudy Guede. Rudy Guede did not say anything about the involvement of Amanda Knox and her ex-boyfriend,but he also denied being the murderer. So who murdered the beautiful Meredith from England? Save the funds and resources of Amanda's yet to be released memoir,published by HarperCollins which has already recorded a 4 million dollar advance payment. Let her start her new life am

It's April 1st,and I seriously need to get used to the idea I have a blog now. It's going to require a daily effort to sit down and write. People say Old habits die hard,but I believe new habits are harder to birth. God help me! Of all days to be resolute! x x x

You know recently,a lot of things have been happening around me and to me that I did not envisage or have a plan B to fall back on . I have literally began to live the phrase' one day at a time', simply because its energy sapping,and mentally stressful thinking of what might have been,what I truly wanted,or what I believe the future holds for me. Haven't you at one time or the other felt like the world was caving in,or you felt so un accepted in certain quarters that you came up with the word that best describes you, failure. Let me conjure another scenario,things and circumstances always fall perfectly in place for you,but this time around,it has not,and you are disappointed. There's a temptation to feel unloved,unnoticed,useless,unworthy because of your present circumstances-that's exactly how I felt until tonight. As I gazed into my little one's face as she snored softly,I felt so much love(that I did not realise still existed) well up in my heart.