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Several times,I have had to listen to friends, associates ,and protégés discuss  how their spouses or partners abuse them in a relationship. When we hear the word abuse most times, words and actions like 'to belittle, exploit, put down, physical hurt, swearing,and even sexual assault' come to mind. Yes, they are all aspects of abuse. One word that does not readily come to mind as a synonym of abuse is disrespect. That's right, disrespect. I bet you are somewhat  surprised as to my use of the word abuse as a synonym of disrespect. Disrespect is lack of respect or courtesy to someone or something; according to Thesaurus dictionary,disrespect means disregard or rudeness towards someone. Disrespect is a no no in every relationship whether it's at home,in an office, or a public place. Disrespect is  such a big issue in the western world  that employees are fired for being unmannerly towards a customer or fellow colleague. Organisatiosns have sued, and have also be...

It was my birthday yesterday,and I've never felt this good. I had a memorable and fantastic day,thanks to family and friends. Most times, I feel depressed a week before and after my birthday because I'm a year older,and I'm not even close to fulfilling my dreams. This year, I have felt positive and determined a month before because I have the feeling I have been given another chance to make a difference. I will succeed; I will prove my critics wrong. Wish me luck x x x.

I totally had a faux-pas this weekend. Alright,it was not a wardrobe malfunction like a nipple slip or whale tail flash,but it was an embarrassing time for me. I have had my fair share of socially awkward and nasty moments in the past, but it had been a while. I had to go for an event where there was a sudden and unplanned change in venue. The new venue located in Central  London,made it tough to get a parking space. Having parked very far from the venue, I had to walk with friends down to the event.  The downside to the story was my shoe was a little loose,and I forgot to stuff the pair with tissue. Reputed to be a high heeled hottie, I flopped. I could not walk, friends had to leave me behind; I simply crawled to the venue. Returning from a rather exhilarating and tiring day with another set of friends,I simply removed my shoes,and walked bare foot back to the car.  Things have never gotten that bad for me on my worst shoe days. I do hope that never happens again,bu...

Can we learn to be responsible for our actions,and not blame a mystical being or spirituality? Can we believe in the law of cause and effect, and not be religious sycophants ? Can we believe that God did not create us to suffer in penury and mediocrity now, to enjoy later in heaven? Can we just shut up and listen to the strategies other third world countries have used to get their greedy leaders out of the power capsules,they call the presidential villas? Can we stop being lazy Christians,and use the brains God has given us to think,learn,and act?  I am really tired of hearing, "God will judge IBB, Obasanjo, Al-Mustapha to name a few',or "it is well!". Yes,God will judge them in heaven,but on earth,who has he given powers like gods to bring justice? You and I.  It is good to be optimistic in all situations but it is also foolishness to leave things the way they are or keep doing things the same way and expect a different result. The author of "IT IS WELL"...

Don't we just love the warmth and excitement in the air? The School breaks, bank holidays, the longest days of the year; its just perfect. The beaches and parks are teeming with stimulated sun-bathers and sand castle builders.  We all love summer, the fashion lines love summer, and the food and drinks industry love summer. Summer is a multi-billion dollar industry in the temperate countries. Its a happy go lucky season when you can almost inhale adrenalin in the air . Skimpy dresses, string bikinis, tanning cream, nail polishes, hair-removal creams, sunglasses, sun hats, BBQ chicken,to name a few! Its a time when we all have a short attention span because of all the distractions around;the wild parties,half dressed hunks or girls. Its a time you are so happy that you let people who make you cross 'go home'  forgiven. Its when the middle-aged and old feel young, and can almost feel their youthfulness come alive again. Summer, really is like a season of our lives when we ...

About three months ago,I bought a lovely Brazilian leather peep toe. It did swallow up a significant amount of my savings,but it was worth it. About a month and half later,I realised the heels of that pair of shoes needed urgent cap replacement. I winced because it suddenly dawned on me this exotic shoe had become my everyday work shoe, and its value was diminishing significantly. I rushed  down to a cobbler who did such a horrid job,that the heel cap came off the same day I wore the shoes. I also attempted a DIY,but it just made the heels worse. I was concerned,and mentioned it to a few colleagues at work,who adviced me to forget about ever wearing the shoes again,because from their experiences of bad heels, determination never got it mended. I listened quietly,but I had made up my mind I was not going to let go of  a pair of shoes of that quality AND price .  Last weekend,I went on another scout for a shoe cobbler who would grant me my impossible wish. After bein...