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One particular experience in my early years has stood out more than all others. In primary three,my mother,a retired teacher had just arrived from the northern part of the country with goods to sell in Lagos, Nigeria where we were settled. It is amazing how some of those clothes and fashion accessories she sold back then are still in trend. I was one young child who liked to show off every now and then, so I picked up one of the aviation sunglasses and hoop ear-rings , and took them to school. On that particular day, I had the opportunity to show off my classy look to friends,because there was a free period on our time-table. A few minutes later,my friend Kemi Dada walked up to the teacher. Back then, class teachers were sitted in classrooms with their students. Our teacher,Miss Stella,was the youngest and prettiest teacher in school. Kemi informed Miss Stella I brought her some gifts. Puzzled,Miss Stella then beckoned on me to confirm what Kemi had said,and I could not...

Author Henri Nouwen once wrote,"When those you love deeply reject you,leave you, or die, your heart will be broken. But that should not hold you back from loving deeply. The pain that comes from deep love makes your love even more fruitful". We may not agree with that,but it's the truth. Everyone has had their heart broken at one time or the other, but not everyone recovers from it. I am one of those people who have recovered from it; I decided to give another person, and another day a chance to prove the cliche  "all men are the same", and "everyone is wicked and selfish" wrong. I would like to compare a painful heart break to your favourite mug accidentally breaking into a thousand pieces. If you are like me,it's not just the 'demise' of your mug that is painful,but the aftermath; a thousand fragments scattered all over the floor. It might take about four painstakingly and thorough sweeps  to get rid of all the sharp pieces. No matter h...

Several times,I have had to listen to friends, associates ,and protégés discuss  how their spouses or partners abuse them in a relationship. When we hear the word abuse most times, words and actions like 'to belittle, exploit, put down, physical hurt, swearing,and even sexual assault' come to mind. Yes, they are all aspects of abuse. One word that does not readily come to mind as a synonym of abuse is disrespect. That's right, disrespect. I bet you are somewhat  surprised as to my use of the word abuse as a synonym of disrespect. Disrespect is lack of respect or courtesy to someone or something; according to Thesaurus dictionary,disrespect means disregard or rudeness towards someone. Disrespect is a no no in every relationship whether it's at home,in an office, or a public place. Disrespect is  such a big issue in the western world  that employees are fired for being unmannerly towards a customer or fellow colleague. Organisatiosns have sued, and have also be...

It was my birthday yesterday,and I've never felt this good. I had a memorable and fantastic day,thanks to family and friends. Most times, I feel depressed a week before and after my birthday because I'm a year older,and I'm not even close to fulfilling my dreams. This year, I have felt positive and determined a month before because I have the feeling I have been given another chance to make a difference. I will succeed; I will prove my critics wrong. Wish me luck x x x.

I totally had a faux-pas this weekend. Alright,it was not a wardrobe malfunction like a nipple slip or whale tail flash,but it was an embarrassing time for me. I have had my fair share of socially awkward and nasty moments in the past, but it had been a while. I had to go for an event where there was a sudden and unplanned change in venue. The new venue located in Central  London,made it tough to get a parking space. Having parked very far from the venue, I had to walk with friends down to the event.  The downside to the story was my shoe was a little loose,and I forgot to stuff the pair with tissue. Reputed to be a high heeled hottie, I flopped. I could not walk, friends had to leave me behind; I simply crawled to the venue. Returning from a rather exhilarating and tiring day with another set of friends,I simply removed my shoes,and walked bare foot back to the car.  Things have never gotten that bad for me on my worst shoe days. I do hope that never happens again,bu...

Can we learn to be responsible for our actions,and not blame a mystical being or spirituality? Can we believe in the law of cause and effect, and not be religious sycophants ? Can we believe that God did not create us to suffer in penury and mediocrity now, to enjoy later in heaven? Can we just shut up and listen to the strategies other third world countries have used to get their greedy leaders out of the power capsules,they call the presidential villas? Can we stop being lazy Christians,and use the brains God has given us to think,learn,and act?  I am really tired of hearing, "God will judge IBB, Obasanjo, Al-Mustapha to name a few',or "it is well!". Yes,God will judge them in heaven,but on earth,who has he given powers like gods to bring justice? You and I.  It is good to be optimistic in all situations but it is also foolishness to leave things the way they are or keep doing things the same way and expect a different result. The author of "IT IS WELL"...

Don't we just love the warmth and excitement in the air? The School breaks, bank holidays, the longest days of the year; its just perfect. The beaches and parks are teeming with stimulated sun-bathers and sand castle builders.  We all love summer, the fashion lines love summer, and the food and drinks industry love summer. Summer is a multi-billion dollar industry in the temperate countries. Its a happy go lucky season when you can almost inhale adrenalin in the air . Skimpy dresses, string bikinis, tanning cream, nail polishes, hair-removal creams, sunglasses, sun hats, BBQ chicken,to name a few! Its a time when we all have a short attention span because of all the distractions around;the wild parties,half dressed hunks or girls. Its a time you are so happy that you let people who make you cross 'go home'  forgiven. Its when the middle-aged and old feel young, and can almost feel their youthfulness come alive again. Summer, really is like a season of our lives when we ...