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Look at these beautiful balloons? Do you think they fly because of their pretty colours? Think again...  it's because of their filler which is a kind of gas. What do you fill your self with? Bad thoughts or negative words? You need a pure filler to rise quickly from the ashes of the past and remain high up. You can't mix good and not so good associations right now. You may not be able to stand the test of height with that decision; you are dealing with pain and already imbedded negative thoughts and energy. To rise above all you have been through , you must DELIBERATELY make positive relationships, leave your comfort zone and be positively energized. Do not let another dampen your spirit by reminding you of your past pain and struggles. You already know what you went through , don't hide in that pain or shame. You dust yourself up and say, "still I rise!".  Focus on how you can get out of your limitations and work on it. Let go of the fifteen old frien...

An A-list Jesusbrity is a child of God that believes eyes have not seen, ears have not heard, neither has it entered the heart of Man what God has in store for him or her. You have got to have fair yo be a jesusbrity, believe His word does not fail! Jesusbrity, a name I just invented for a believer who believes her future is bright inspite of her past!

Forgiveness means to FORget the wrong and GIVE your heart to God to mend it. A few years ago, a 'friend' really hurt me. She was someone I was not close to but just had a habit of 'paving' the way for me.  At first, I found it childish that she would say things about me that were not true and would read several meanings to my actions or words. At first I thought she would stop, but she didn't. Because I was not a talker, I was waiting to see Karma catch up with her; but Karma never did. When my other relationships began to get sour based on this assassination of character, I just internalized the hurt and tainted my perspective of everyone; everyone was sent to hurt me. Next, I isolated myself and drowned in my pain . I was hurt because my actions were constantly misconceived and it seemed no one  gave me  a chance to show them who I was. I let hurt cloud my judgement and reasoning. I have experienced a lot of identity crisis in the past trying to b...

Walking into the house yesterday, I noticed my pot of flower was blooming. Yay! Thanks to the rain and cool weather- that is when I enjoy this rare display.. 9ja sun has a way of killing the bloom😒 .... just like 9ja situation has a way of killing our capacity and intentions.. Matthew 6 readily comes to mind.. God is aware of your present situation but He insists you should not worry because He knows you need the rain(blessings) and cool(trial and tribulation-free)weather.                           25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life[a]? ...

With Summer comes a restless three year old who is awake before 7:00 am and is knocking on my bedroom door. It dawned on me  that I had to find a way to channel Arielle's energy so that we both wouldn't tear our hairs out. While shopping yesterday, I decided to buy a few everyday items to keep Arielle busy; straws, finger paints, flour, food coloring. With the help of Google and some worksheets, I hope to keep her busy and make her wiser. It is essential that she's more intelligent after the summer break. So, I drew up a table so we could establish a routine for work, and then play. Today, we revised some of what she learnt in Literacy last term; phonic sounds s,a,t, and i. Then we read some words. and we decided to snip at some colorful straws and make a patterned necklace. It was so much fun for her. I wish you all the best in keeping your LO busy at this time.

Wouldn't Life have been so beautiful if you did not have to worry about certain people, and what they do or did?While settling down to have my breakfast a few hours ago, I just thought of the few sweet people that have come my way this year. It did take me a while to warm up to them, if you know what I mean. I'm asking myself, 'are they phony?' , 'do they really care?', 'what's in this for them?'.. That's what happens when your mind has been messed up, and sadly your heart has been sliced into two as well. As I gleefully poured blueberry yoghurt into my oats, I shook my head in pain. How did I ever make it through that season of anguish and bitterness? It seemed like yesterday, but at the same time it felt like a  totally different dimension. Honestly, I felt a twinge of pain unconsciously going down memory lane, but I quickly looked at how far I've come. I may not have accomplished a lot career wise, but I am stronger; firmer in my decision...

It is amazing the effect Celebrities have on teenagers.  Just recently, I saw a picture of two American teenage sisters attending an event on an online news site. As they posed on the red carpet, you could see hundreds  of  excited pre-teens and teenagers screaming in the background. I may not have been that fan-crazed when I was eleven, but I was a teeny bit crazy. I was such a huge fan of Scary Spice that I used all her unusual nail polish colours( which are now considered normal); Mel B was my idol. Back then, I could have done anything to look like her; she was everything I wasn't; outgoing, vibrant, and playful, but I loved her. I desperately wanted to get a tongue piercing and a belly button piercing, but couldn't because there was no Piercing Parlour back then in the ancient city of Kano. Decades down the line, I never did get the  piercings done even when I had several opportunities. A few years down the line, I discovered tongue piercings meant different t...

I bet a lot of us are looking forward to St Valentines day, while a few of us cannot be bothered. Now, hold on! It's not because you don't love chocolate or wine or teddy bears and jewellery. It's because you don't have someone to share it with, or you are just not feeling loved. There are times when I just wished God who says He is a friend who sticks closer than a brother could just come down, draw me close, and I could just cry my eyes out on His shoulder. Sadly,He can't come down and manifest as a strong, broad, shoulder. Sure, I feel His strong presence ,sure I feel His Love. When I remember His Word. But He has also sent certain people into our lives; people who will not laugh at our present circumstances or tease us for our inadequacies; people who believe in us and appreciate us; people who are just a call away. Just yesterday, I was distraught because I was unable to get a positive result from a project I am presently handling, and then a friend cal...

One particular experience in my early years has stood out more than all others. In primary three,my mother,a retired teacher had just arrived from the northern part of the country with goods to sell in Lagos, Nigeria where we were settled. It is amazing how some of those clothes and fashion accessories she sold back then are still in trend. I was one young child who liked to show off every now and then, so I picked up one of the aviation sunglasses and hoop ear-rings , and took them to school. On that particular day, I had the opportunity to show off my classy look to friends,because there was a free period on our time-table. A few minutes later,my friend Kemi Dada walked up to the teacher. Back then, class teachers were sitted in classrooms with their students. Our teacher,Miss Stella,was the youngest and prettiest teacher in school. Kemi informed Miss Stella I brought her some gifts. Puzzled,Miss Stella then beckoned on me to confirm what Kemi had said,and I could not...

Author Henri Nouwen once wrote,"When those you love deeply reject you,leave you, or die, your heart will be broken. But that should not hold you back from loving deeply. The pain that comes from deep love makes your love even more fruitful". We may not agree with that,but it's the truth. Everyone has had their heart broken at one time or the other, but not everyone recovers from it. I am one of those people who have recovered from it; I decided to give another person, and another day a chance to prove the cliche  "all men are the same", and "everyone is wicked and selfish" wrong. I would like to compare a painful heart break to your favourite mug accidentally breaking into a thousand pieces. If you are like me,it's not just the 'demise' of your mug that is painful,but the aftermath; a thousand fragments scattered all over the floor. It might take about four painstakingly and thorough sweeps  to get rid of all the sharp pieces. No matter h...

Several times,I have had to listen to friends, associates ,and protégés discuss  how their spouses or partners abuse them in a relationship. When we hear the word abuse most times, words and actions like 'to belittle, exploit, put down, physical hurt, swearing,and even sexual assault' come to mind. Yes, they are all aspects of abuse. One word that does not readily come to mind as a synonym of abuse is disrespect. That's right, disrespect. I bet you are somewhat  surprised as to my use of the word abuse as a synonym of disrespect. Disrespect is lack of respect or courtesy to someone or something; according to Thesaurus dictionary,disrespect means disregard or rudeness towards someone. Disrespect is a no no in every relationship whether it's at home,in an office, or a public place. Disrespect is  such a big issue in the western world  that employees are fired for being unmannerly towards a customer or fellow colleague. Organisatiosns have sued, and have also be...

It was my birthday yesterday,and I've never felt this good. I had a memorable and fantastic day,thanks to family and friends. Most times, I feel depressed a week before and after my birthday because I'm a year older,and I'm not even close to fulfilling my dreams. This year, I have felt positive and determined a month before because I have the feeling I have been given another chance to make a difference. I will succeed; I will prove my critics wrong. Wish me luck x x x.

I totally had a faux-pas this weekend. Alright,it was not a wardrobe malfunction like a nipple slip or whale tail flash,but it was an embarrassing time for me. I have had my fair share of socially awkward and nasty moments in the past, but it had been a while. I had to go for an event where there was a sudden and unplanned change in venue. The new venue located in Central  London,made it tough to get a parking space. Having parked very far from the venue, I had to walk with friends down to the event.  The downside to the story was my shoe was a little loose,and I forgot to stuff the pair with tissue. Reputed to be a high heeled hottie, I flopped. I could not walk, friends had to leave me behind; I simply crawled to the venue. Returning from a rather exhilarating and tiring day with another set of friends,I simply removed my shoes,and walked bare foot back to the car.  Things have never gotten that bad for me on my worst shoe days. I do hope that never happens again,bu...

Can we learn to be responsible for our actions,and not blame a mystical being or spirituality? Can we believe in the law of cause and effect, and not be religious sycophants ? Can we believe that God did not create us to suffer in penury and mediocrity now, to enjoy later in heaven? Can we just shut up and listen to the strategies other third world countries have used to get their greedy leaders out of the power capsules,they call the presidential villas? Can we stop being lazy Christians,and use the brains God has given us to think,learn,and act?  I am really tired of hearing, "God will judge IBB, Obasanjo, Al-Mustapha to name a few',or "it is well!". Yes,God will judge them in heaven,but on earth,who has he given powers like gods to bring justice? You and I.  It is good to be optimistic in all situations but it is also foolishness to leave things the way they are or keep doing things the same way and expect a different result. The author of "IT IS WELL"...

Don't we just love the warmth and excitement in the air? The School breaks, bank holidays, the longest days of the year; its just perfect. The beaches and parks are teeming with stimulated sun-bathers and sand castle builders.  We all love summer, the fashion lines love summer, and the food and drinks industry love summer. Summer is a multi-billion dollar industry in the temperate countries. Its a happy go lucky season when you can almost inhale adrenalin in the air . Skimpy dresses, string bikinis, tanning cream, nail polishes, hair-removal creams, sunglasses, sun hats, BBQ chicken,to name a few! Its a time when we all have a short attention span because of all the distractions around;the wild parties,half dressed hunks or girls. Its a time you are so happy that you let people who make you cross 'go home'  forgiven. Its when the middle-aged and old feel young, and can almost feel their youthfulness come alive again. Summer, really is like a season of our lives when we ...

About three months ago,I bought a lovely Brazilian leather peep toe. It did swallow up a significant amount of my savings,but it was worth it. About a month and half later,I realised the heels of that pair of shoes needed urgent cap replacement. I winced because it suddenly dawned on me this exotic shoe had become my everyday work shoe, and its value was diminishing significantly. I rushed  down to a cobbler who did such a horrid job,that the heel cap came off the same day I wore the shoes. I also attempted a DIY,but it just made the heels worse. I was concerned,and mentioned it to a few colleagues at work,who adviced me to forget about ever wearing the shoes again,because from their experiences of bad heels, determination never got it mended. I listened quietly,but I had made up my mind I was not going to let go of  a pair of shoes of that quality AND price .  Last weekend,I went on another scout for a shoe cobbler who would grant me my impossible wish. After bein...

Just yesterday evening, I watched an episode from the fourth season of the medical drama, House. Dr Gregory House sought after a patient with a difficult prognosis in order to cut down one or two doctors from the list of candidates in a job candidate selection process in the hospital.  The dying  patient,a rock band member  and drug junkie seemed like a happy man. However,T female doctors however ,two doctors developed a strong inclination towards him; one was of hatred,while the other was of love. The two doctors clashed regularly on the worth or value of the patient who cared less whether he would die or live.  In addressing the issue, Dr House said '....there  is no Saint without a past or a sinner without a future....' and it did struck me,that as humans,from being infants to being elderly,we will inevitably hit a bump or two on our journey to accomplishing whatever we want out of life. Whether it is being a cheerleader, an athlete, a doctor, or simply ...

Tread: Amanda Knox's Memoir : The decision of a retrial of Amanda Knox baffles me. If Rudy Guede was already charged with the murder of Meredith Kercher,what really doe...

The decision of a retrial of Amanda Knox baffles me. If Rudy Guede was already charged with the murder of Meredith Kercher,what really does the Italian authority want? The families of Amanda Knox have gone bankrupt over the years as a result of the trips to Europe, and legal fees. The Italian Law Enforcement Agency all of a sudden realise the Verdict by Judge Hellman of the 2011 was invalid. Does this have to do with the Kercher family getting justice,or with chasing a killer with only contaminated evidences to fall back on.  Every DNA evidence from the night of the murder points to the convicted Rudy Guede. Rudy Guede did not say anything about the involvement of Amanda Knox and her ex-boyfriend,but he also denied being the murderer. So who murdered the beautiful Meredith from England? Save the funds and resources of Amanda's yet to be released memoir,published by HarperCollins which has already recorded a 4 million dollar a...

It's April 1st,and I seriously need to get used to the idea I have a blog now. It's going to require a daily effort to sit down and write. People say Old habits die hard,but I believe new habits are harder to birth. God help me! Of all days to be resolute! x x x